Most people here know I am a woman.
Men in my experience are very slow to recognize the use of language to garner control. I have heard my whole life that not liking to be called a girl is being over sensitive or rejecting girls, or failing to see a compliment! When, in fact, calling a mature woman a girl in any setting is about diminishing standing.
Continuing to call women girls and then self-correcting was a very common passive aggressive response in my earlier work life experience. ‘Good morning girls, oh, I mean ladies...’ If the men in the organization hadn’t been so busy telling us we were over-sensitive they would have seen the other problems with this man much earlier saving us all a lot of trouble. But men my age and older will still roll their eyes and comment if I ask not to be called a girl.
The affect of gender bias on my paycheck, and on other women’s paychecks is testament to how diminishing the status of women has real consequences that are not related to so-called 'over-sensitivity' or 'hurt feelings'. In fact, the assumption that it is about hurt feelings is itself bias and yet another diminishment of the person.
So many here are responding from a over-personalized place of their own fears of making a mistake and getting punished - and this fear has driven lots policies made mostly by fearful men. Add to this a history of dehumanizing blacks and this is so obvious problematic. Why are some of you acting as if responding to this undermines people's independence??
It’s really so simple. This guy calling Bruno King Kong when it’s his job not to do so, is his mistake, and it’s the tip of the iceberg regarding his other work related issues, which it usually is. I doubt any of you would call a mature woman a girl in a work setting, but you might very well fail to recognize the real problem with it, and that’s what’s happening here. You want standards of excellence and performance on the court and in coaching - why shouldn’t you hold him to higher standards than guys you watch the game with?
Men in my experience are very slow to recognize the use of language to garner control. I have heard my whole life that not liking to be called a girl is being over sensitive or rejecting girls, or failing to see a compliment! When, in fact, calling a mature woman a girl in any setting is about diminishing standing.
Continuing to call women girls and then self-correcting was a very common passive aggressive response in my earlier work life experience. ‘Good morning girls, oh, I mean ladies...’ If the men in the organization hadn’t been so busy telling us we were over-sensitive they would have seen the other problems with this man much earlier saving us all a lot of trouble. But men my age and older will still roll their eyes and comment if I ask not to be called a girl.
The affect of gender bias on my paycheck, and on other women’s paychecks is testament to how diminishing the status of women has real consequences that are not related to so-called 'over-sensitivity' or 'hurt feelings'. In fact, the assumption that it is about hurt feelings is itself bias and yet another diminishment of the person.
So many here are responding from a over-personalized place of their own fears of making a mistake and getting punished - and this fear has driven lots policies made mostly by fearful men. Add to this a history of dehumanizing blacks and this is so obvious problematic. Why are some of you acting as if responding to this undermines people's independence??
It’s really so simple. This guy calling Bruno King Kong when it’s his job not to do so, is his mistake, and it’s the tip of the iceberg regarding his other work related issues, which it usually is. I doubt any of you would call a mature woman a girl in a work setting, but you might very well fail to recognize the real problem with it, and that’s what’s happening here. You want standards of excellence and performance on the court and in coaching - why shouldn’t you hold him to higher standards than guys you watch the game with?
